34 Things for 34 Years

by Darcie
birthday photo

Today I turn 34!

WOW. I can’t believe I’m 34.

When I think back 10 years, I imagined 34 would look and feel very different. 

I thought I would feel older, wiser, be “farther along,” married, and probably have a couple of kids.

Even though 34 looks different than I thought it would, for the most part, I feel content with where I’m at.

I wanted to write this post to share 34 things I believe to be true right now. 

I wrote a similar list when I turned 30 which I posted yesterday. At that time, I was living in Bali, and my life was very different. I was in the midst of healing from heartbreak, and I was rethinking the entire framework for my future.

4 years later, I’m just months away from getting married, and I’m in a new career.

It’s really incredible to witness how much healing, growth, and change can occur in only 4 years (or really even less).

34 is going to be a big year for me. I’ve learned a lot about myself, most importantly that there are no “should bes” in life. I’m exactly where I need to be, and I’m so excited to see what 34 has in store for me.

Here are this year’s 34 things:

  1. It’s amazing to have dreams, but it’s okay if those dreams change or if they don’t work out the way you imagined.
  2. It’s not only okay to change, it’s necessary. People can and should evolve throughout their lives.
  3. Check in with your body. It provides so much information on how and what you are feeling right now.
  4. Thoughts are powerful. Change your way of thinking, change your life.
  5. Time with the people you care about is the most precious resource you have. Don’t squander it.
  6. Down days are normal. It’s not possible for every day to be amazing. Still, you can always find something to be grateful for.
  7. Thank the people who bring value to your life.
  8. Show up for the people who matter to you.
  9. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
  10. Give your best effort every day and recognize that what your best effort looks like will vary day to day.
  11. Choices matter and reflect who you are. But remember that it’s never too late to make a new choice and change who you are.
  12. Nothing lasts forever. Savor the good moments and know they will pass. Learn to sit with the difficult moments and know they will pass too.
  13. Routine is helpful to keep you focused on goals and moving forward, but don’t let it make you stagnant. Life is too short to become repetitive.
  14. Things don’t matter; people do.
  15. Challenge yourself to live with less. You’ll be surprised what you can let go of and how much space it frees up in your life – physically and emotionally.
  16. Practicing gratitude isn’t a silly hashtag. It’s a tool to help you live a happier life.
  17. Talk to yourself like you would your best friend.
  18. Words matter. Pause and reflect before you speak.
  19. Speak your truth, live your truth. But do it kindly.
  20. If someone tells you that you can’t do something you want to do, prove them wrong.
  21. When people don’t respect your boundaries, it’s their problem, not yours.
  22. Sometimes you can’t cut toxic people out of your lives, but you can limit and shape how and when you interact with them.
  23. Don’t stay stuck in the past regardless of whether it’s good or bad memories. It only keeps you from making the most of the present.
  24. Connect with your spiritual side, whatever that looks like.
  25. Recognize that people give in different ways. For some it’s with tangible items, and with others it’s time. One is not better or worse than the other.
  26. Life is beautiful and difficult. 
  27. Black and white thinking is limiting because so much of life falls into the gray area.
  28. Comparison is inevitable to some degree, but staying in that space will only keep you from accepting that you will never be anyone other than you, and that’s the way it’s meant to be.
  29. Caring for yourself is necessary and has to come before anything else.
  30. There’s always at least two sides to every story. The challenge comes in humbling yourself to see that your side is entirely subjective.
  31. Your potential is limitless.
  32. Even on the dark days, resilience exists within you. It’ll be there when you need it.
  33. Life is hard, and it’s not meant to be experienced alone. We all need people we can count on.
  34. Tomorrow is a new day. Anything can happen.

Featured photo by Bria Peterson


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