Letter to Logan – May 2019

by Darcie
darcie and logan flower field


May was pretty busy for us. 

We started the month with a second engagement shoot, and it turned out even better than the first one. I can’t wait to see the rest of the photos, but I was blown away by our sneak peeks. Our photographer is so talented and so fun to shoot with, and I’m so happy that we got to do this second shoot. It made me even more excited for our wedding day knowing that the photo are going to be stunning!

At the beginning of the month, I finally convinced you to start the search for your wedding look. We found some options, but they just didn’t seem quite like you. We visualized your perfect look, and it worked! While it’s a different color than we anticipated, we found the look you were going for. The fit is on point, and I’m so excited to see you at the end of the aisle in it. Eeeeek!

During our goal-setting pre-marital counseling session, we set goals to see my parents once a month and go to church twice.

We didn’t quite meet our goal with church (we went once). We tried out a new one, but the megachurch vibes just weren’t for us.

We exceeded our goal with my parents, seeing them twice this month – first on Mother’s Day for a hike around Mission Trails and burgers at Bareback Grill, and then last weekend for carpet shopping for my (soon to be our) house.

When I bought the house nearly three years ago, there weren’t a whole lot of updates needed, but we’ve made a few improvements, and the carpet should be the final one. The house will be ready when you move in in a few months!

We saw friends this month as well. Your best man Josh visited, and of course we took him to our fave sushi spot. It’s always good to see him, and I especially love when you get to see your friends. Next month is your bachelor party!!

We saw “my” friends too. It was a rainy day, and we both didn’t really feel like leaving the house. We both noticed this month with all of the May gray just how much clouds negatively affects our moods.

But we went anyway and had a great time. I appreciate how much of an effort you’ve made to get to know my friends and make them our friends. It really shows me how much you care.

In the middle of the month, I spent a weekend at EMDR training. It was a full three-day event, and I was dreading it. I was super excited to get trained in this type of therapy, but I was exhausted just thinking about it. I really enjoy my work as a therapist, but it takes a lot out of me, so I really cherish my weekends.

Knowing this, prior to the weekend, you asked me how you could support me. I was so grateful for your offer and said, “You can take care of dinner on Saturday night and give me a back rub.” You followed through on both, and it really relieved some of my burden. Thank you!

Turns out, I loved the EMDR training, and I’m really looking forward to integrating this therapy into my work with clients.

In addition to getting EMDR trained, I started doing marketing for myself now that I’m working at a group practice. I started seeing clients in Encinitas, and I’m so glad that I made the decision to join this particular group. I’ve felt very welcomed, and I feel confident that it’s going to be a great move for my career.

You continue to develop in your career as well. You started working on a new project and continue to play around with other ideas for how to grow your business.

I love that we share a creative spirit because I think it helps us better understand each other and support each other’s ideas. You also chatted with my dad about business, and I love your relationship with him. It’s really a dream come true for me.

My mom experienced some health issues this month. She’s struggled with anxiety and somatic complaints on and off since my uncle passed away suddenly a couple years ago. Recently, it’s gotten worse and she’s realizing just how much his death affected her.

I’ve struggled to support her and have felt a mix of emotions. I’ve been frustrated that my sister isn’t in our lives right now, given that she’s a physician and has always been there for medical questions. I also feel helpless when my mom calls me and doesn’t know what to make of her symptoms. She’s never been a worrier, so it’s caught me off guard and I have been far from perfect at handling it.

I’m working to change that, though, and I’m extra grateful for just how close I am to both of my parents. They care so much about both you and me, and I’m glad that we are making an effort to see them as often as possible. Life is unpredictable, and I want to make sure we are soaking up every minute with the people who matter most to us.

Hopefully the clouds lift in June, and we avoid June gloom this year. I’m ready for weekends at the beach and dinners in the backyard. Can’t wait to see with the next month brings!



Featured photo by Bria Peterson


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