Logan and I are holding our wedding in Canggu, Bali this October.
Before we decided on Bali, we had several conversations about where to get married. Even though San Diego is where we met and currently live, I didn’t see myself getting married there.
It’s difficult to put words to why not, but it felt like getting married in San Diego would be like any other day that would come and go so quickly.
Instead, I envisioned an extended celebration, one where everyone would be able to relax and enjoy the experience.
I also knew that my parents would take on a lot responsibilities, such as hosting guests at their house and entertaining them for multiple days. They are the type who would have played those roles willingly and graciously, but I also knew that it would be tiring and that, simply put, they would enjoy themselves more if they didn’t have to worry about anything except having a good time as the parents of the bride.
Consider something different.
While Logan hasn’t been to Bali, he lived in Hong Kong for four months. He describes it as one of the most memorable and impactful experiences of his life.
We both know firsthand what it’s like to be out of our comfort zones, and we try to consciously put ourselves in those situations. We value exploration and connection, and we knew a destination wedding would fit us both.
It didn’t take long for me to toss out Bali as an option. Logan was on board, and frankly I was thrilled!
Still, the decision didn’t seem final for a long time.
I knew that some family and friends wouldn’t be able to manage the logistics of the trip (time-off, childcare, finances, etc.), and some just wouldn’t be interested in going to Bali.
I wanted to be sure that I wasn’t pushing Logan to do something he didn’t want to do.
I could handle the inevitable push back from family and friends. But I needed Logan to be 100 percent with me in this decision.
He assured me, each and every time I asked… and I asked many times, if he would want to get married in Bali too.
Do what feels right for us.
As expected, we have indeed received some push back, and there are people I’d love to be at our wedding who probably won’t make the journey. Of course that will be disappointing, but I still believe in our decision.
We’ll never please everyone, and there will always be naysayers.
Here’s what we know, though.
We know that we are getting married because it’s what is best for us. We know that the people who come to our wedding a) really want to be there, b) may not otherwise have the inclination to experience a different country and culture, and c) will share in an experience that won’t soon be forgotten.
I believe that this is a preview of our life together. Logan and I share a passion for connecting with others and pushing ourselves to follow our own individual passions.
We can be like others or we can be simply be ourselves.
We hope that by choosing to have our wedding in Bali, others may see they have a choice in how they do things in their lives, too. You don’t have to justify your passions or decisions to anyone but yourself.
We believe in staying true to who we are and who we believe we should be in this world. We wanted to our wedding celebration to embody this, and this is why we chose to have our wedding in Bali.